Toxic Masculinity and Its Impact on Men's Mental Health

Amidst the surge of mental health campaigns, men's mental health issues are still often sidelined. Yet men are humans with emotions, inner wounds, and real trauma. Unfortunately, many choose to stay silent for fear of being perceived as weak. Worse still, those who dare to speak up are often met with skepticism.

In Indonesia, stigma around men's mental health is deeply rooted. Men are expected to be strong, never to cry, and certainly not to complain. When a man publicly shares that he has been a victim of sexual harassment on social media, instead of empathy, he is often met with insults and accusations that he enjoyed the experience. This is a stark illustration of how toxic masculinity continues to silence those painful voices yearning to heal.

The Silencing Stigma: "Men Must Be Strong"

From a young age, boys are often taught to be tough. When they cry, they are labeled as weak. When they are hurt, they are told to be quiet. This plants the implicit message that emotions are not meant for men. As they grow into adults, they feel guilty when experiencing sadness, fear, or emotional breakdowns.

As a result, many men choose to bottle up their feelings. They avoid seeking help when facing mental pressure, feel ashamed to admit to depression, and even shy away from therapy for fear of being branded weak. This contributes to the rising rate of suicide among adult men, often occurring quietly and without warning signs.

Disbelieved Victims: Sexual Harassment Against Men

Though often taboo, sexual harassment against men is a reality. Yet, when men come forward as victims, public reactions are frequently hurtful. Instead of support, they encounter ridicule and accusations of hypocrisy or disbelief that men can be harassed.

This reflects not only society’s ignorance about sexual harassment but also low empathy toward male victims. Consequently, victims feel even more isolated, ashamed, and reluctant to report. Sexual trauma can shatter anyone’s identity and mental health, regardless of gender.

Long-Term Consequences: Untreated Wounds

When emotional wounds are not given space to heal, they can lead to serious problems. Men who are never allowed to express their feelings tend to release pressure destructively. This can include substance abuse, aggression toward partners, or social withdrawal.

Furthermore, ongoing mental burdens can develop into disorders such as depression, anxiety, and even schizophrenia. Unfortunately, strong stigma means these disorders often go undiagnosed until they have become severe.

The Role of Environment: Changing the Narrative

Change must start with our immediate surroundings. Families, friendships, and workplaces should become safe spaces where men can express their feelings without fear of judgment.

Parents need to revise their parenting styles. Teach boys that crying is not a sign of weakness but a brave acknowledgment of feelings. On social media, we must stop shaming men who dare to speak out. Empathy should be unconditional and free of double standards.

Normalizing Therapy for All Genders

Therapy and counseling are not just for women. Men have every right to professional help. Just as one sees a doctor for a physical injury, there is no shame in consulting a psychologist when mental health is challenged.

As more men courageously embrace therapy, a new narrative will emerge: mental health is not about gender, but about the courage to care for oneself. Many public figures—from athletes to actors—have begun opening up about their mental health challenges. This positive step deserves our full support.

Conclusion

Men's mental health is a serious issue overshadowed by patriarchal culture. We must realize that behind a man's tough exterior may lie deep wounds. It is time for society to stop demanding men to always be strong and start providing space for them to be complete humans who can cry, admit fatigue, and ask for help.

Recognizing mental health is not a weakness but a responsibility to oneself. To all the men out there, know that your feelings are valid. Your voice matters. You are not alone.